So what are some motives that someone who has fallen into this wrong habit of being a doormat has? A doormat might be craving approval from others. A doormat might be seeking love from the other person that they are not giving them. Or a doormat might be trying to control others and every situation. Whatever the reason you can see this is an MMI (Me, Myself and I) issue because it revolves around Self.
Here’s a truth we rarely think about: Pride is a spectrum. It is not only arrogance, although that is very true, it is also a sense of inferiority. Pride is anything that focuses on MMI. Whether it’s “I’m the best!” OR “I am no good,” it’s still about who? Me!
But there is a middle ground, a narrow road as Jesus said (Mt 7:13-14), where we will not think too highly of ourselves, but not too lowly either. It is the only cure for Pride. It is Humility as we have said before. (see link below)
Are we to help others? YES! But first we must check our motives. If you truly desire what is BEST for the other person, then refuse to be a doormat- don’t let the “help” be all about MMI. Choose instead to love the way Jesus loves. More tomorrow…
<>< Peace, Diane
