As I have been stating, Love is not about MMI, so each spouse must seek to fulfill the physical needs, whether this means holding hands or making love, that will bless the other spouse. If he fulfills her needs and she fulfills his, then everyone is fulfilled, right? The key is learning to be selfless in all of these love languages, and this one is no exception. Staying in tune with what our spouse desires, their likes and dislikes, is important. Dr Chapman says, “Don’t make the mistake of believing that the touch that brings pleasure to you will also bring pleasure to her.” (p111) Once again, we must know our partner and only do that which will show them that we love them. For example, I do not like it when Joe tries to tickle my feet. I am so very sensitive in that area that it is not fun for me, at, all. It actually hurts, so make sure you are meeting the other person’s needs, not just doing what you want to do.
One of the reasons God created our bodies with touch sensitive nerves all over is so that we can feel connected to one another. This is vital in marriages, but it is also important in all our relationships. For example, I am a hugger, yet I know that not everyone feels comfortable with this type of affection. And so I will often put out my arms and ask before I assume the other person will want me to “bring it in,” as they say. Yet hugging is one of the simplest ways to release all sorts of feel good hormones in our bodies. If we know someone loves this type of Physical Touch, then throwing your arms around a good friend for about 20 seconds can release the “happy hormone” serotonin which can help deepen your bond with one another. Another great hormone oxytocin, known as the “cuddle hormone,” can actually lower your blood pressure since it calms your body and mind, flooding your relationship with the peace and joy God would love to see His children share. So with their permission, let’s go hug a person or two today!
2023’s Got A Minute? Book Club
January: The Bible
February: “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts” by Gary Chapman
<>< Peace, Diane
