As I said last week, godly Love should encompass every part of WHO we are: spirit, soul and body. After the initial passion begins to wean, it is a firm choice to commit to the other person, that can fan those flames even hotter than before. And of course, I am not only talking about sexual intimacy here. Our spouse should be the first person we want to turn to with our hurts and our victories. He or she should be our best friend, the one we want to share all of life with. This certainly does not mean women should not have girlfriends or men have male counterparts to lean on too. But the spouse should come first. This seems a little lost in our current culture. One only needs to watch TV programs for a moment or two to see the disparity between what God intended and what this fallen society says is normal. Often the characters will run to their friends and do not share their hearts with their spouses first. Love is a choice and it is a choice to put your spouse above everyone, except God.
Part of this commitment is to seek God together. As the saying goes, “A family who prays together, stays together.” And especially if our feelings begin to get in the way of our desire to communicate with our spouse, choosing to come together before God, being vulnerable and honest, can bring about a lovely change in your relationship. And again, this works for every type of relationship. I can remember a situation that happened between myself and a Sister-in-Christ where prayers defused a potentially dangerous break in our friendship. We had been meeting for a while, praying over our families together, when by God’s Grace, the moment I felt that serpent trying to cause division because of what we were talking about, I quickly hugged her and spoke words of sincere love into the situation. She, thankfully, hugged me in return as we both humbly continued praying, and the issue was resolved before it became a means for war. Choose to love and choose to pour your sincere prayer, together, over that love. God is Faithful to do the rest.
2023’s Got A Minute? Book Club
January: The Bible
February: “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts” by Gary Chapman
<>< Peace, Diane
