Nice is telling others what they want to hear. Kind is telling them what they need to hear. There is a huge difference between the two. With being nice, you are not really being a good friend. Love means telling others the truth that will set them free. Free from selfishness, having that MMI perspective, and truly being able to love and be loved. It is not always the comfortable thing to do. And so to keep this false sense of peace in my relationships, I have defaulted to being nice instead of kind. Of course, this gives others a false understanding of who I am and what our relationship should look like. Remember those boundaries I talked about last week? Being nice blurs those boundaries until the other person thinks they can walk all over you. I hope I don’t have to tell you, that’s neither a good, nor a healthy, relationship.
Being kind, however, clarifies these boundaries, and it offers the other person true love. Once again, the word is KIND. We are never rude when we speak the truth. We are never trying to get our way when we speak the truth. And we are not thinking about anything, but the good of our friend when we speak the truth. This sand paper softens the heart of the other person to remember they are not perfect and they need to continue to be refined, and defined, by God’s Love. There is a term for this the we tend to forget, do you know what it is? Leave a comment below and we will discuss it tomorrow…
<>< Peace, Diane
