Sadly, the majority of marriages seem to be so irreconcilable that an average of 50% of them end up in divorce. Yet these marriages on the verge of destruction are exactly the ones that can benefit the most from the lessons taught in this book. Remember this month we are talking about “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts” by Gary Chapman. Dr Chapman offers case study after case study of couples who thought that they had had it and wanted out, but then they committed to implementing what he suggested about learning each other’s love language and their marriages where not only restored, but even better than before.
Again, learning to speak each other’s love languages so that we may meet the needs of our partners is so very important! Love is not just an emotion, it is everything that makes a human a human. It is the gift we receive from God that becomes the attitudes of our heart; think spiritual. It is our thoughts, emotions and desires; think soul. And it is certainly our words, our mannerisms and our actions; that’s our body. Love should encompass every part of us. So if I say I love you, but my body language is as afar away from confirming my words as possible, for instance maybe I have a sarcastic look on my face as I say it, then it is not love, right?
We must continually learn from God who says what He means and means what He says. If we SAY I love you, but do not back that up with actions that say the same thing, there will be mixed messages, and the one you claim to love will not feel loved AT ALL. When we love others we must love them with all we’ve got. Troubled marriages especially need for both spouses to be all in on changing themselves and transforming the relationship. We begin by sincerely praying for each other’s good, even if this means that “good” is something we do not particularly want for ourselves. Remember love, godly Love, is all about the other person, not about MMI. And even when things are going well, this is no time to sit back and get complacent…more tomorrow…
2023’s Got A Minute? Book Club
January: The Bible
February: “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts” by Gary Chapman
<>< Peace, Diane